Okay, by popular demand, here’s a bunch more. Unlike the above, I’ve only field-tested a couple of these so far, but they’re in the same spirit. Also, I cobbled together my own version of the spinning room pattern. If it’s cool with Mystery, I’ll post it here and maybe we can fix it up together.

As always, any comments on these are welcome.

6. THIS ONE COULD BE GOOD FOR THE PRUDISH OR CHASTE: Listen, we re adults. I won t lie to you. Sexuality does potentially create conflicts (though less so if you re both mature people), but what s also true is that any attempt to stop the conflict by eliminating or controlling sexuality only creates more and often greater conflicts. If you try to turn off your sexuality or go celibate for whatever spiritual or religious or personal reason, all you re doing is creating more pressures, more conflict, more tension. If you negate sexuality, you are negating yourself. To be an animal is to be sexual, and we are animals. We like to break ourselves off into separate parts intellectual, emotional, sexual. But that is just the way we think and organize; in truth we are not fragmented. So that any time there s a total response in any situation, the whole being is there and because the being is sexual, sexuality is always there in any total response. People cut off others or try to ignore them or resist or fight feelings because they are afraid of being turned on, afraid of seeing someone as they are, afraid of love because they think they don t know how to handle it. But you know what? It takes more energy to turn yourself off than it does to let yourself be turned on. (BISEXUAL ADD ON: Human beings are constantly involved with each other. Anyone can be turned on by anybody else, not only between male and female, but also between members of the same sex. In fact, sexuality is polymorphous and can occur in any relationship.) OPTIONAL, CONTINUE WITH: To have a free flow of energy, there must be sexuality in addition to everything else. It can display itself in a look, a touch, in a quality of attention. If anyone is totally relating with anything, sexuality is there. The conflicts we are scared of or let arise are a matter of conditioning, not nature or evolution. To understand that a lot of your responses, which keep you away from truly experiencing life and letting it shine through, are a result of conditioning is to begin to move forward again.

7. What a lot of people want is to feel good, to feel better and better. What they are searching for is something called pleasure. You may be tired of your old life , bored with it, you may want something different. People tell you of wonderful states of being, books or movies excite you with mysteries and promises of delights beyond comprehension. How do you unlock this door? How do you find this new opportunity, or learn to recognize it when it s standing right in front of you? [I'M A LITTLE STUCK ON WHERE TO GO FROM HERE, BUT I WANT TO CONTINUE WITH: Do you know what pleasure is? It s not the actual experience, it s the residue of it in your mind and the cells of your skin, it s basking in the memory of an experience, not in living the experience itself. Pleasure comes after the fact, when you think about it or tell your friends what an amazing feeling or adventure you had. Then you figure out how to repeat it, but to intensify it and do it even better.]

8. Most of us consider the skin and everything inside it as the me or the internal. Everything outside the skin is not me, the external. Out of that dichotomy, which we are conditioned to believe in, we fragment ourselves from the world, dividing it into self and other. Living relationship, real communication transcends these boundaries, because the internal and external are not different at all. The world we create is just an expression of ourselves. If the world seems violent, uncaring, in turmoil, it is because we are. If it seems loving and open and exciting, it s because we are. So a communication that breaks down the boundaries of all divisions is an energy that has sexuality in it. And that energy is love.

9. FOR AN ORGASM CONVERSATION: The problem with sexuality, the reason we re so confused about it, is because we all want sexual relief, yet we are faced with the bind that we live in a society that says one thing about sexuality but does another. Real living involves passion. And do you know what passion is? It s abandonment, giving up oneself. And sexuality is a genetically programmed way of experiencing this. The problem we have about sexuality is that , even there, we can t put ourselves in the moment. If you re looking for release, for orgasm, then the mind is in the future, in time. And then there s the fear of not satisfying or not being satisfied, and that is simply ambition, which has nothing to do with passion. It s being involved with your self and with thought, and by doing this you re removing yourself from the person you re with, from the intimacy of the living relationship. In a truly satisfying and fulfilling sexual relationship, orgasm isn t important, it s sexuality that s important. (I’VE BEEN GETTING INTO TANTRA LATELY, SO, IF APPROPRIATE, I MIGHT BRIDGE INTO: That s why tantra is great: when you experience sexuality but deny yourself orgasm, the energy is being recycled instead of being released.)

10. So don t be like everyone else. Most people are second-hand beings. Who they are, what they believe, the way they move through the world are all secondhand, gathered from books and parents and teachers and other authorities, from their conditioning, from the experiences that chance or fate as dealt them. So after a while, all we do is recreate the past over and over again, which is never new, never fresh. When you act, it doesn t matter what the great or wise say. Who says they re great or wise; how do we know, because somebody told us . (OPTIONAL: It s difficult to do a way with all authority, because it puts one in a frightening place. But that place isn’t actually frightening at all: it’s new and exciting and ripe with possibilities. COULD GO INTO SPINNING ROOM HERE.)

11. FOR LATER, MAYBE DURING A SEXUAL VALUE ELICITATION: When you make love, part of the beauty of it is because it seems like the real world melts away, and it s just you two in an intimate bubble of unreality. But the truth is that it doesn t remove you from the world, it s being part of the world in a very intimate correct way. That is real, much more real than anything you may do during 99 percent of your day. Almost everything you do is distraction, and you know it; this is real. Feeling and being in the moment and letting go of ego and just being totally connected with someone in a pure and non-selfconscious way is real. OPTIONAL ADD-ON: It is moments like those that you as a human being live for, and that is why those moments create life.

Any further thoughts on these? Good ones? Bad ones? Revisions?

PS Toecutter: How do I find your old Runes post. Is there a search function on this board? If there is, I can’t find it?

PPS Toecutter, I agree with you on 4 and 5. Four actually backfired on me with a 9 waitress who had a bf. I tone it down now, and it works well. You’re not talking about your love with her in the bf destroyer, but the love she THINKS she has with her bf.