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Push-Pull
Style (Neil Strauss). Posted on Friday, October 9th, 2009
(No Ratings Yet) Loading ...This is something I’ve desperately been trying to work into my game, and want to start a discussion on here. It’s the idea of push-pull. It keeps a relationship very exciting, and makes an HB just become totally obsessed with you. I guess it’s similar to Rio’s 101 theory. But it’s more encompassing. In other words, you want to constantly be pushing an HB away and then pulling her in. All the time, in everything you do.
My Natural GM friend is an expert at this. He’ll open with a girl, then say “Would you go away and leave us alone? We’re talking guy talk here.” Then, as she starts to leave, he’ll pull her back towards him physically, hug her and say, “You’re so sweet. Look at you. You remind me of a cute little lamb (stroking hair).” Then he’ll go 180 and say, in an aggressive but joking tonality, “God, I want to smash your head in right now.” He’s constantly push-pull, push-pull until the HB doesn’t know which way is up and is totally DDB in his world, waiting to see what unpredictable move he’s going to throw at her next.
Obviously, other examples are just being hot, then cold with her. Or saying “We’d make a great couple, but you’re too XX, and I can’t be with people who were XXX.” Then later, “You know what, maybe I could learn to tolerate your particular XXX. If only you didn’t live so YYYY.”
Can anyone think of more concrete ways to work push-pull into our game on a more regular basis?
MORE IMPORTANTLY: I want to work push-pull into my game not just in convo, but in the BIGGER picture. In other words, after I #close a girl, it seems as if, until we get together again, we’re just talking on the phone trying to set up a date and see each other. There’s no excitement or push-pull in this. How, on a grander level, between the #close and the f-close, can we be working push-pull with an HB. Does anyone do this as a regular part of their game?
